Definitely. We adopted a boy 19 years ago from Mother’s Choice and he was told about his adoption from an early age which he accepts and has no problem about it.

一定要比孩子知道,父母可以等他到18時說給他聽

I agree that the child shall know the fact that he/she is being adopted.

When will be the best time? How do we disclosed the infoamtion? How do we manage it if he/she discovered hints well before he/she is 18 years old? What are the benfits behind that we disclosed the information?

本人認為不要讓孩子知道,若你把他視作己出,就讓他以為你們是他的生父母.如告訴他後,他可能會去想親生父母,或變得自卑等.

無論她的親生父母是怎樣的人,遺棄他是環境迫成??還是什麼??他都有權利要知道,更何況他會識分辨是非黑白.....應該不會變得自卑等

一定要比他知,可能他母親到是逼於無內先不要他,可能他到好想見返他

Naturally, they should know, and the earlier the better.  An average person will be able to pick up things about difference in physical appearance, the relatives’ ‘strange looks’, etc.  What is more, a child adopted in Hong Kong does not even have a ‘birth’ certificate, but is given only an adoption certificate.  Anybody who needs to show his ‘birth’ certificate will immediately know that he is adopted, whether his parents wish to tell him or not.  What is more, adoption is not a shameful thing.  It is just one option (under somewhat awkward situations) for the birth parents, adoptive parents and child to look for the best way to serve the 3 parties, hoping to bring comfort and joy to each party.  Since then it is not a shameful thing, the child must of necessity know this to be so, and to believe that God has different plans, loving plans, for him, which may differ from many others.